How do I Stop Negative Thoughts? Can it be done?

Are you asking yourself: “How do I stop negative thoughts?” So did I many years ago and it’s a great question! Many people want to know the answer. Do you? Then keep reading… It is important to learn how to deal with negative thoughts, if you want the Law of Attraction to work for you. And of course if you want to live a happy life in general!

Wondering how to get rid of my own negative thinking was a burning question I had for many years in a row. I just couldn’t stop my negative thought patterns. It was really maddening. I often felt desperate and thought it would never stop! It was completely overwhelming.

 

How do I stop negative thoughts: can someone push the stop button please…

It’s like you can’t stop the inner mind chatter isn’t it? You are aware of the fact that it’s not helping you. You really wish there was a stop button inside your brain. Or at least a remote control to pause them for a while. Sadly there is no such thing available.

If the negative thinking is going on and on, it drains you. It makes you feel exhausted and unhappy. Maybe even anxious. Instead of stopping the negative thinking, the thoughts become worse. Is that you? I’ve been there and I know how you feel…

 

The good news is that you can do something about it…

 

I am going to support you with great tips that will make you feel so much better! I will show you how you can be your own stop button. You will love the simple process. Your life will change for the better. It is easy and won’t take a lot of time. Are you willing to make a positive change?

 

You are not alone with your negative thoughts!

Although it may sometimes seem as if you’re the only person on the planet that is suffering. Know that many other people suffer from the exact same thing. It won’t stop the thoughts, but the idea that you’re not the only one is really comforting. It means you’re not crazy. Never think you are. When I went through this period in my life, I thought I was absolutely insane. How wrong I was!

 

Facts about negative thinking

It looks like others are feeling so much better. But in reality this is not true. Many people think negative on a daily basis. Below you see the findings of psychologists who did some research with students of a business school.

Although these students thought they were thinking positive in general, in reality they weren’t. It appeared that 60 to 70 percent of the thoughts that occurred spontaneous every day, were negative! Can you imagine! These were young students!

The general numbers are even more revealing: in general 80% of our daily recurring thoughts are negative. We repeat our thoughts as well. You may think the same negative thoughts as you were thinking yesterday or a week ago right now.

 

Negative thinking and the Law of Attraction

The more negative your thoughts are, the more people you meet that have the same mindset. It is proof that the Law of Attraction works. Like energy attracts like energy. If you think negative, you send out negative frequencies to the Universe. This attracts people (and circumstances) to you that are on the same vibrational frequency. You not only attract people with the same thoughts into your reality. Everything around you looks a bit dark and gloomy. Like nothing can make you feel good, no matter what you do.

The more you think: “How do I stop negative thoughts”, the worse it becomes. It’s the way the Law of Attraction works. It’s not a personal thing or so. Your vibration is low when you think negative. The Law of Attraction can’t do anything else, than bring you more of the same vibration.

That is why it is so important to keep your vibes high. But you probably already realize this. You are not crazy! There is nothing wrong with your intelligence. But still you can’t stop the thinking patterns and the “negative thought virus” keeps on spreading itself on autopilot.

This has to do with your focus. Whatever you focus on expands: you get more of it.

For example: If you think: “I don’t want these bad thoughts in my head”, you’re still focused on the negativity. The Universe does not understand the word “no” or “not”. It simply responds to the vibration you are in and brings you more of that same vibration in return.

Remember that everything is energy. Your thoughts are no exception to this universal rule. Your thoughts are energy too. They vibrate. They have a unique frequency. It’s not the words but the feeling behind the words that count. The Law of Attraction responds to what you really mean. If you’re worried and/or anxious, it has no other choice than to respond with a physical manifestation, that matches your worried/anxious vibration. Even if you state what you want in a positive way. The Law of Attraction simply picks up your vibrational frequency.

 

Why do I think so negative? Time for clarity!

I have never met people that are meditating and ask the Universe: “Please bring me more of these yummy dark, somber thoughts and feelings, I love them so much…” And I am almost 100% certain that you don’t do this either. It has nothing to do with willpower. If that were the case, you would already be a happy thinker. I am also pretty sure that you really understand, that negative thinking won’t brighten up your day. But still you can’t stop it. No matter how hard you try.

 

You were programmed to think negative

Once upon a time you arrived on this planet as a cute little baby. Your subconscious mind was open to all impressions and learned about what life is all about from the adults. Especially the first 5 years of your life are important. You absorb all information and your subconscious mind believes all it hears. If you’re interested I explain this in more debt in this article about reprogramming the subconscious mind.

The subconscious programming from your childhood is still working. That is because most people are not aware of the fact they do have this programming in the first place. You couldn’t help it, that you were programmed as a little child. However as an adult you can. In 99%  of the cases, negative thinking patterns have their roots in your early childhood.

 

When you are not aware of your programming, you can’t change it

But the moment you understand that negative thinking simply is a (subconscious) program running in the background, you have the option to rebuild that program into something you like better! It may sound simple and it is. Maybe you heard it all before, but what did you do with this information? Are you practicing it?

 

“Understanding the why you really think the way you do, is the first and most important in answering your burning question, “How do I stop negative thoughts?” Insight in the way your mind works is the key factor to change!” ~Anja loahelp.com

 

Are you willing to change your negative mind chatter? Then practice the exercises below:

 

How do I stop negative thoughts Step 1: Shake your body & Let your thoughts go…

So your head is full of these creepy nasty thoughts and you want to do something about it. Stand up, take a few deep cleansing breaths, and then shake your body. Shake all these thoughts of. Really merge into this shaking process. Let it all go! Imagine all these thoughts leaving your system, flying away into the nothingness. Into the empty space where they came from. All neutralized and gone…

Do this till it’s quiet in your mind. Don’t give up. It might be hard in the beginning, but please hang on. You can do this! Even if it takes an hour. It’s worth it. You will feel so much better afterwards.

 

Step 2: Be Grateful for your thoughts…

If you want to change negative thinking patterns and replace old programs, it’s important to be grateful for them! Maybe you’re a bit confused now and scratching behind your ears. I understand this! Let me explain the importance and why you should practice gratitude for the negative thoughts you have, no matter how bad and/or ugly they are.

Negative thoughts are messengers

They tell you something is not aligned with who you really are. They initiate negative feelings that match the vibration of the thought. This feeling also comes as a messenger. When you’re aware of the thought and/or feeling, it offers you the opportunity to change it into something that feels better. That is awesome!

You are not grateful for the thought itself, but for the opportunity the awareness of the thought offers you. Every time the negative thought occurs, say: “Thank you for letting me know something needs to change”.

Thank your inner wisdom for bringing it up as a beautiful sign. When you have the power to think negatively, you also have the power to reverse it. Say: “Wow!” to your amazing potential to reverse your thinking pattern!

 

Gratitude is an instant vibration changer! You can’t be grateful and think negative thoughts in the very same moment! ~Anja loahelp.com

 

How do I stop negative thoughts step 3: Create an Intention!

So your negative thought popped up. You did the shaking process, and you took time to feel gratitude for the opportunity to change the thought. Now it’s time to offer some delicious good feeling vibes to your subconscious mind. You do this by creating intentions. Your subconscious mind has no resistance to intentions, if you state your intentions in a certain way.

 

Below is an example of setting an intention:

Let’s say you think a thought about not being good enough. Something like: “I hate myself for doing this or that…” So you offer gratitude for the fact you also have the power to love yourself. You offer an intention: “I want to feel good about myself” or: “I want to love myself”.

 

Always set a positive intention!

Never state anything like : “I don’t want to feel bad”, instead say: “I want to feel better”.

Intentions always start with: “I want to….”  (fill in the blank) After you created yours take a few seconds to feel into the words. Really dive into the feeling, open yourself to it. Write your intention on a piece of paper, carry it with you and reread it as often as you possibly can. This is a great reminder for your subconscious mind.

Your subconscious has no problem with intentions. That’s why they are better than affirmations.  An affirmation would be like: “I feel great”. But this doesn’t work when you are overwhelmed with negative feelings and thoughts. Your subconscious will resist it, because it doesn’t believe it. So the first step to change is always working with an intention, because an intention feels better. When you feel better, your vibration changes and so do your thoughts! That is a universal law. It always works!

 

How do I stop negative thoughts? Bonus tip!

Before I leave you, I have a bonus tip for you. I realize you can’t always do the exercises above. For example when you’re at work or driving your car. Whenever a negative thought pops up in your mind, just say out loud (or in silence): “This is not the truth about me, I am Love, Peace and Joy, next thought please!” Repeat this process until the negative thought is gone and you think better feeling thoughts!

 

How do you stop your negative thoughts?

There are many more ways to deal with negative thoughts. I would Love to hear how you deal with them. Share it below in the comments. Do you have any recommendations? Were the suggestions in this article helpful to you?  Do you have questions? I Love to support you and clarify anything that’s on your mind today. There are no stupid questions! Please don’t be shy to ask me anything.

I am here to support you!

Much Love, Anja